In this episode of Courage is Built Here, Justine continues Pathway One, Feel It All, with a powerful and honest conversation about grief, values, and emotional healing. She welcomes her friend Becki Feldmann to share her experience of walking through secondary infertility, multiple losses, and the quiet disconnection that followed.
Becki reflects on how grief caused her to lose her sense of self and light, even while continuing to function at work and at home. She shares how faith brought her back, not as something that pushed her through pain, but as something that allowed her to receive love from others and recognize her own worth. That realization ultimately led her to leave environments that valued output over humanity and to choose alignment with her values instead.
Together, Justine and Becki explore the importance of values clarity, emotional language, and recognizing when you are out of alignment. They discuss how courage often shows up in small, everyday moments like setting boundaries, apologizing to repair relationships, and modeling emotional responsibility for children. Throughout the conversation, they return to the themes of feeling deeply, living in alignment, and choosing courage as a daily practice.
Key Takeaways
- Pathway One, Feel It All, begins with values clarity and learning how to feel emotions without becoming them.
- Grief and loss can disconnect us from ourselves, even when we continue functioning on the outside.
- Naming emotions, noticing where they show up in the body, and slowing down helps bring the nervous system back online.
- Faith played a role in Becki’s healing, not as something that pushed her through grief, but as something that brought her back to herself.
- Feeling unseen, unheard, or valued based only on output is a sign of misalignment.
- Recognizing your worth can lead to courageous decisions, including leaving environments that no longer align with your values.
- Values act as a guide for decision making, boundaries, and job satisfaction.
- Misalignment often shows up through emotional and behavioral “tells,” like irritability, exhaustion, or lack of patience.
- Courage can look like apologizing, repairing relationships, and modeling emotional responsibility for children.
- Saying no, changing direction, and using your voice are powerful expressions of courage.
About the guest
Becki Feldmann is an Assistant Vice President, Senior Employee Experience and Brand Strategist for Commerce Bank, who is deeply committed to helping people feel seen, heard, and valued in the spaces they work and live. Through her personal journey of loss, faith, and values-based living, Becki brings warmth, connection, and intentionality to everything she does.
Connect with Becki
- Website: https://www.bloomwithbecki.com/
