I originally wrote this piece for another outlet but received the official rejection for that yesterday. When one door closes you open another. I am beyond thankful to HuffPost Parents for their continued support of Ever Upward
When Your Child Asks Why I Don’t Have Kids
At 3 he asked his mom, “Why don’t Justine and Chad have kids?”
His mom replied with a generic, “Well, they have three dogs instead.”
At 6 he asked in front of us at the dinner table, “Why don’t you have kids?”
Before I could answer, his mom said, “That’s why they love spending so much time with you guys!”
It is a simple question from him, grounded in true loving curiosity. It is a loaded question for me that speaks volumes he is too little to understand yet. It is a question he deserves a truthful answer to, as it has to be confusing to see these people who love him so much not look like all the other families around him.
How do you as parents answer this question in a way that honors your child’s curiosity and respects the feelings and the story of the stunned couple in front of you?