Are they well? Are they happy? No, do they have true joy?
Are they hurting anyone?
Is it really any of my business?
Do I even have the extra bandwidth to make it my business?
And if I do, can I seek the answers with humble curiosity?
These are the questions I’ve been asking myself when I feel offense or judgment creeping in.
Truth? I have very little bandwidth for those feelings anymore. I don’t want to carry them. Even though, if I’m honest, my brain sometimes enjoys the drama, because in so many ways it is wired for it.
Our brains are wired for safety and comfort, still trying to protect us from the long-gone saber-tooth tiger.
And when I remember that, I remember this too:
I do have the skillset to choose something better. To choose not to take offense. To choose not to judge. Because neither has ever served me. Not even a little.
You do you.
I’ll keep doing the work to stay curious about how come, if I have the energy today.
Most likely, I’ll just go about doing me.