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I will tell my story, sharing my three, every time.


“Thank you for sharing your story.

Us too.”

Followed by their story of infertility and loss….

They’d be 15.

We wanted more than one.

We lost three.

We struggled too and eventually adopted.

Fill in the blank with someone you love or work beside’s story.

Because 1 in 6 struggle to conceive.

1 in 4 pregnancies ends in loss.

And 1 in 160 pregnancies end with a child born still.

Infertility and loss affect someone you love or work beside.

For many of us, our journey to parenthood wasn’t what we hoped, dreamed, or planned.

And so I will tell my story, sharing my three, every time. Plus, I hope it helps you remember to choose empathy.

I tell it to honor them, to honor my motherhood, and to light the way out of the darkness of loss so we can walk it together.

Today marks what would have been the eleventh birthday of our last embryo.

Eleven years of wonders.

Eleven years of grief.

Eleven years of overwhelming love.

Eleven years of mothering them from afar.

Eleven years of holy awe of what these tiny beings that are my children, that we only held for a couple of weeks, and how far the love for them has reached.



Justine is a Licensed Professional Counselor with more than 25 years of experience in traditional mental health and personal and professional development. Justine has been certified in the work of Dr. Brené Brown for ten years. Justine is the author of eleven books, including five Amazon bestsellers covering subjects such as infertility, faith, and grief. She has been honored to do two TEDx Talks, The Permission of the And and The Donut Effect. She travels nationally and presents virtually to global audiences delivering keynotes, workshops, retreats, and trainings on topics such as leadership, courage, resilience, mental health, preventing and coping with burnout, and courageous and curious conversation, especially in creating cultures of belonging and diversity, equity, and inclusion. Justine lives in St. Louis with her husband Chad, their three dogs, and for four months of the year hundreds of monarch and swallowtail butterflies.

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