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living boundaried

One of the things that I get a lot of feedback on is how boundaried I am and how clear I am about those boundaries.

I know my bandwidth, limits, talents, gifts, time, needs, and wants well.
I know how short life is and how I want to spend my time.
I know that I cannot give what I do not have.
I know that if it isn’t a hell yes, it is a freaking no.
I know that I cannot please, accommodate, or help everyone, and it definitely sure isn’t my job to save anyone.

And so, I live very boundaried. 
I clearly state those boundaries. 
I sit with, cope, and move through the discomfort that comes up for me when I disappoint or even hurt someone by living boundaried. 
Most of all, I am able to love deeper, harder, and more because there is much more space created through my clear, boundaried life.

And good goodness, couldn’t we all use a love that is deeper, harder, and more right now?

I suppose it surprises a lot of people when you clearly state your boundaries and then also stick by those boundaries.

I also hope that it inspires them to give themselves permission to set boundaries for themselves because it is then that you will find the space to love more and deeper.


Justine is a Licensed Professional Counselor with more than 25 years of experience in traditional mental health and personal and professional development. Justine has been certified in the work of Dr. Brené Brown for ten years. Justine is the author of eleven books, including five Amazon bestsellers covering subjects such as infertility, faith, and grief. She has been honored to do two TEDx Talks, The Permission of the And and The Donut Effect. She travels nationally and presents virtually to global audiences delivering keynotes, workshops, retreats, and trainings on topics such as leadership, courage, resilience, mental health, preventing and coping with burnout, and courageous and curious conversation, especially in creating cultures of belonging and diversity, equity, and inclusion. Justine lives in St. Louis with her husband Chad, their three dogs, and for four months of the year hundreds of monarch and swallowtail butterflies.

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