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May we all feel it all.

I can imagine you are tired.

Between the shopping, the parties, the concerts, and creating the magic, let alone that dang elf, if you are an elf family, I can imagine you are tired.

It’s a lot.

And it is a privileged joy.

You get to create the magic.

Magic that I will never get to see in their eyes.

I don’t need you to feel your tired and fatigue and then force your gratitude with an “at least I have kids.”

There is room for both the tired and the grateful.

It is there, especially in your gratitude, that I know you understand the gravity of what will never be for me.

I will never see the magic in their eyes as they prepare cookies for Santa and spread glitter in the yard for the reindeer. I will never see their eyes light up when I have figured out the perfect gift they didn’t even know they wanted. I will never experience their wonder and faith as we read Luke together.

Instead, I force dogs to pose for our holiday card, wear Christmas jammies for a whopping dreaded three minutes because it brings me great joy, and make little Winston be our elf for a minute to catch the shot.

May we all feel it all.

Tired and grateful.

Grief and joy.

It is there we turn toward one another, meet each other, and walk one another through it together.

Merry Christmas magic.


Justine is a Licensed Professional Counselor with more than 25 years of experience in traditional mental health and personal and professional development. Justine has been certified in the work of Dr. Brené Brown for ten years. Justine is the author of eleven books, including five Amazon bestsellers covering subjects such as infertility, faith, and grief. She has been honored to do two TEDx Talks, The Permission of the And and The Donut Effect. She travels nationally and presents virtually to global audiences delivering keynotes, workshops, retreats, and trainings on topics such as leadership, courage, resilience, mental health, preventing and coping with burnout, and courageous and curious conversation, especially in creating cultures of belonging and diversity, equity, and inclusion. Justine lives in St. Louis with her husband Chad, their three dogs, and for four months of the year hundreds of monarch and swallowtail butterflies.

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