We must ask for what we want and need in a clear and kind way.
This is to love and lead well.
What if they don't have what you need and want?
Stop going to an empty well looking for water.
Have courageous conversations, set boundaries, go find what you need from somewhere else, and at times give yourself permission to love/lead people from afar.
the unspoken is never benign
We can be kind by being clear, we can hold people accountable with courage, and we must ask for what we want and need speaking expectations. We also must recognize when our own emotions or discomfort with vulnerability stands in