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Justine Froelker - Business Speaker - Quote

What happens when you break my trust?

It is true that when people show you who they are, believe them.

And people can learn and grow and change.

Two things can be true at once. 
In fact, they often are despite how uncomfortable it is for us and our brain that loves certainty.

When we choose to trust people, we also choose to be vulnerable.
When we choose to be vulnerable with people, we choose to trust them.

And something we can count on is that trust will be broken.
Because life is messy and people are complicated.

It can sometimes feel stupid to be vulnerable with them again when the trust has been broken or to try to repair trust when it has been broken.

It can feel stupid and doesn’t necessarily mean it is stupid.
Because I will always come back to – people can learn and grow and change.

Sometimes they just don’t want to, though.
This means there will be times when trust cannot be fully repaired, and our relationship must change.

For me though, it will never be stupid to believe the best in people, to build and repair trust with them, and to yes, put major boundaries in place when they aren’t willing to repair, learn, grow, and change with me.


Justine is a Licensed Professional Counselor with more than 25 years of experience in traditional mental health and personal and professional development. Justine has been certified in the work of Dr. Brené Brown for ten years. Justine is the author of eleven books, including five Amazon bestsellers covering subjects such as infertility, faith, and grief. She has been honored to do two TEDx Talks, The Permission of the And and The Donut Effect. She travels nationally and presents virtually to global audiences delivering keynotes, workshops, retreats, and trainings on topics such as leadership, courage, resilience, mental health, preventing and coping with burnout, and courageous and curious conversation, especially in creating cultures of belonging and diversity, equity, and inclusion. Justine lives in St. Louis with her husband Chad, their three dogs, and for four months of the year hundreds of monarch and swallowtail butterflies.

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