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Love the Life You Lead. Spring 2014. DAY ELEVEN: Justine Brooks Froelker 

Love the Life You Lead
Spring 2014. DAY ELEVEN
Justine Brooks Froelker

What if you feel the fear but choose it anyway?

We often times don’t want to admit to ourselves that we always have a choice. Sure, they may be two pretty shitty choices, but still, we always have a choice. We make choices every single minute of every single day that define our lives, our happiness and our souls. Some choices are simple, easy and small. Others are gut wrenching and life changing.

My most life altering choice?

To choose my recovery.

I honestly don’t think it matters what you need to recover from; addiction, discontent, obsessive compulsive disorder, disorganization, depression, bitterness, loss of any kind, infertility, toxic relationship, anxiety, toxic job, family stuff, feeling lost, lack of motivation, perfectionism, holding on, anger, faith difficulties…this list can go on and on.

Recovery is recovery.

Life is hard, people are complicated and we will all eventually need to make the active choice to change our lives and recover from something that is holding us back from the authentic, brave, shining light of our heart, soul and spirit.

The biggest road block I often see with clients, and even within myself, to this soul completing choice is fear.

Change is hard.

We fear hard.

Mistakes, mess ups, backward steps and maybe even what some may call a failure are inevitable.

We fear imperfection.

Without _______________ who the hell am I?

We fear feeling even more lost.

At least we have the unhappy, shitty known.

We fear the unknown.

As someone who has drug herself out of the hole of miserable despair to do the work of recovery. And as someone who pushes, walks alongside and sometimes leads others into making the choice to choose change and themselves. I can promise, that if you do the work, anything really is possible.

But you have to feel the fear and do it anyway, we must be afraid and brave all at once because courage isn’t comfortable, as the work of Brené Brown shows.

Choose courage. Choose change. Choose you.


Justine is a Licensed Professional Counselor with more than 25 years of experience in traditional mental health and personal and professional development. Justine has been certified in the work of Dr. Brené Brown for ten years. Justine is the author of eleven books, including five Amazon bestsellers covering subjects such as infertility, faith, and grief. She has been honored to do two TEDx Talks, The Permission of the And and The Donut Effect. She travels nationally and presents virtually to global audiences delivering keynotes, workshops, retreats, and trainings on topics such as leadership, courage, resilience, mental health, preventing and coping with burnout, and courageous and curious conversation, especially in creating cultures of belonging and diversity, equity, and inclusion. Justine lives in St. Louis with her husband Chad, their three dogs, and for four months of the year hundreds of monarch and swallowtail butterflies.

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