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When Hope Grows Up: Part 4 

Deep down, even within uncertainty and questioning, we know what our truth is. If we are unsure, then that uncertainty is our truth in that moment.

Owning our stories means owning all the parts of our story. Owning our stories sometimes means owning that we are unsure at this moment.

Because when we finally give ourselves permission to own it, even in the lostness, we will find our truth and clarity.

And as my favorite author and researcher storyteller, Brené Brown says,

When we own our story, we can write the ending.

Owning my story means I do not have to explain to anyone else why I have made a choice, it simply means I must stand by that choice, honor it and hold onto it as my truth.

Even when my truth makes you uncomfortable or you do not agree, I still do not have to make you understand it. Because at the end of the day I am the only one who must live with it.

My enough and everything, how far I have gone for my hopes and dreams may look nothing like yours.

And that is okay; one is not better or more okay than the other.

They are our truths.

And if I have reached my enough and everything and redefined my hope to let go of a dream, even if you do not agree or understand, does not mean that I have given up, quit or chosen without loss.

It only means I have honored truth; myself.

When hope grows up I own all the parts of my story and know I am enough.


Tomorrow we’ll talk choosing our legacy.

“I said to my soul, be still and wait without hope, for hope would be hope for the wrong thing; wait without love, for love would be love of the wrong thing; there is yet faith, but the faith and the love are all in the waiting. Wait without thought, for you are not ready for thought: So the darkness shall be the light, and the stillness the dancing.” ~ T.S. Eliot


Justine is a Licensed Professional Counselor with more than 25 years of experience in traditional mental health and personal and professional development. Justine has been certified in the work of Dr. Brené Brown for ten years. Justine is the author of eleven books, including five Amazon bestsellers covering subjects such as infertility, faith, and grief. She has been honored to do two TEDx Talks, The Permission of the And and The Donut Effect. She travels nationally and presents virtually to global audiences delivering keynotes, workshops, retreats, and trainings on topics such as leadership, courage, resilience, mental health, preventing and coping with burnout, and courageous and curious conversation, especially in creating cultures of belonging and diversity, equity, and inclusion. Justine lives in St. Louis with her husband Chad, their three dogs, and for four months of the year hundreds of monarch and swallowtail butterflies.

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